CONVERSATION SCRIPTS — BY AGE
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Memorize one. Use it in the car, at dinner, on a walk — never as a
formal sit-down. Short and often beats long and rare.


AGES 6–9  (the reflex of "tell mom")
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"You know how at the park, sometimes a grown-up we don't know
might talk to you? The internet is the same. Anyone online can
say they're a kid even when they're not. If anything ever feels
weird, you tell me — and you are never, ever in trouble for
telling."

Repeat casually every couple of months. Don't make it a Big Talk.


AGES 10–13  (the friendly-stranger pattern)
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"There are people online whose job is being friendly so kids will
send them pictures. They look like other kids. They're patient.
They give compliments. They ask for a photo, even just a face one
to 'see who they're talking to.' That's the pattern. If anyone
asks for a picture — even one that seems harmless — you come to
me. Rule of the house: I will not be mad. I will help."

Add when they're ready: "The trick is the friendly part. Not the
creepy part. The creepy part comes later."


AGES 14–17  (the sentence that saves lives)
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"If you ever send something you regret — to anyone — the worst
thing you can do is panic and pay. The second worst is hide it
from me. I'm going to promise you three things right now, and I
want you to remember them:

   1.  I will not be mad.
   2.  Your phone will not be taken away as punishment for
       telling me.
   3.  We will fix it together. There is always a way out.

That's a real promise. I mean it tonight, and I'll mean it in
two years."

Say this OUT LOUD. Don't just think it. The teen who believes
this sentence is the teen who doesn't end up in a 3 AM crisis
alone.


THE WEEKLY 30-SECOND TOUCHPOINT
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Once a week, in the car or at dinner:

   "See anything weird online this week?"

That's it. Don't push. Don't lecture. Don't react to the small
stuff — they're testing whether you're really safe to bring big
stuff to. Listen, nod, maybe share something weird YOU saw. Build
the muscle.


IF YOUR CHILD COMES TO YOU AFTER SOMETHING HAPPENED
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Your first five minutes determine whether they tell you the next
thing. Say this — out loud, even if you're panicking inside:

   "Thank you for telling me. You did the right thing. We're
   going to figure this out together."

Then breathe. Then act. The action plan is on the emergency card.


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